Tuesday, December 28, 2010

Flylady's System

One of my friends asked me to elaborate on Flylady's system. The title to this page is a link to her site. It is so detailed you have to peruse her site some. If you can think of it, she has thought of it.

First thing: Babysteps!! You are not behind, jump in where you are. Your house, car, mind, body etc did not get that way overnight,  you aren't going to fix it overnight. You take small (babysteps) toward it each day.

Next up is : Routines!!! These make such a difference!! Wow, I had no idea. It has made such a difference in my daily life. I have to say, I have NEVER been a routine person. I have always flown by the seat of my pants, day by day. I have been a procrastinator, and a do it as you think it sort of person. I have never been a planner.  However, after I did the routines for about a week and half, I began to see something. I began to realize that getting up in the morning was so much more pleasant because I did my night routine and getting the day started was easier because I had a morning routine. That making sure my daughter ate on schedule happened because I had an afternoon routine. She starting being a happier little girl because she had routines, because she saw Mommy with routines. 

Blitzing!! I love blitzing and have loved Blitzing for years. It makes such a difference in life. It is even more fun when you get on yahoo messenger and you have a blitzing buddy. My usual buddy is my sister, but sometimes there are three or more of us, which makes it even more fun. The idea behind blitzing is 'that you can do ANYTHING in 15 minutes" and the beauty of it is that it is true. You CAN do anything for 15 minutes. You set a goal, tell your buddy what the goal is, set the timer and GO!!  Then you come back after your 15 and tell your buddy what you did. You get a pat on the back and you get to pat them. It also makes you accountable to do what you said.

Zones and Missions!! Flylady has broken the home into 5 zones. It helps make things seem easier to overcome. She sends daily missions out that are correlated with the zones. You don't have to follow HER missions, you can make your own up. Just as long as you decided what zone your in and you do a mission in that room. 

Room Rescues!! These are AWESOME!! It means you set your timer for 5 minutes. You move as fast as you can in the room, putting stuff away , doing general cleanup!! When the timer goes off, the room may not look perfect but it will look better, and once you have established your routines and such, 5 minutes will fix any room.

There is so much more to her system that I can detail here, such as a Control Journal, using your calendar, Weekly Home Blessing, Basic Weekly Plan, Menu Planning, Pampering yourself, conquering Mt. Washmore, having a shiny sink and going to bed at a decent hour.

Go to her site.. Check it out!!! It is worth it! Your life will change if you give her system a decent chance!! I have two small children and my house stays clean!! The only way that has occured is through her system. I can tell you that before her system I had one child and my house looked like a war zone!! You could not even tell I had carpet, now you know the color is brown! I can take a picture without having to adjust the camera so as to cut out as much of the background as I can. The background is clean, items are put away. ETC.... 

I recommend doing her babysteps. Start there. Don't try to take on to much at one time. The key is really baby-stepping your way into a new way of life. 

I am not going to bed at a decent hour.. but I am headed there now... 

Monday, December 27, 2010

Flying makes a difference ....

I think flying has made a difference in my mood. Does that sound crazy? It seems to be true. I notice I am less stressed, I play more with my daughters. They are dressed every day which is not something that would have happened before Flylady. They are so adorable in there little outfits and shoes.

My oldest looks so cute with her pigtails. I love her giggle and I hear it more often because I have a clean house with just a few blitz' a day and have time to make her giggle. She is so stinkin' cute. My youngest smiles and coo's and it is so sweet to see and hear. My children are a blessing and flylady has allowed me enjoy that blessing even more.

I honestly believe that I would be so stressed all the time with 2 children and no hubby in sight if it weren't for flylady. I know that having a baby is tough enough, but somehow with the system in place. The house stays clean, I know where to find everything. We have clean clothes and can wear what we choose because of flylady's system.

I know it seems silly to go on and on about flylady, but she has made such a difference in my life. She has made such a difference in my family's life. My children will grow up differently because of her. They will not struggle with things like I did, because they will be taught early that in 15 minutes things will look different!!

Tuesday, December 21, 2010

Tomorrow.. Very Big Deal....

Tomorrow.. might just change our life... and then again it might not. We won't know for 6 weeks...

The COMLEX step one is tomorrow. I ask that those of you that read this.. pray.. By tomorrow I mean Tuesday the 21st. The COMLEX for those that don't know, is a make or break test. It a state test, and passing is a must, passing well is even better. This test will help determine where he gets his residency and job ultimately. It is a very big deal.

I admit I am nervous for him. I want him to pass for his sake. I frankly have never cared if he is a doctor or not. To be totally blunt, honestly I would rather he was anything but... if you are in the medical field .. you totally understand that statement. I do however, want him to be happy and if this is his dream then I want that for him. I do hope I make sense. I am accepting of this life for the most part, though I won't lie and say I don't have days.. cause I do. for sure and for certain. Every medical spouse has them.

I am a little nervous staying home by myself here for some reason. So please pray protection over us and strength for me.

Please pray for God's will in our life. It is difficult for me not to just pray for passing but I want what God wants more than I want passing. I want us to go in the direction that he would have us go, not in the direction we might choose.

Saturday, December 18, 2010

Things a little tough...

Today I have been a bit down. I tried to fight it back as best I could at the very least for my little girl L. She does not understand when Mommy is in a mood, especially a bad mood. I did not want her to have to deal with it, so I tried as best I could to overcome it for her sake. I did okay.

It is tough financially right now. We had some money come in and it seemed like a lot, but it turned out to be less that I thought. I sincerely thought it would go further than it did. We were not frivolous with it at all. I carefully paid the bills so as to bring everything current. It took everything we were so behind.

We don't have enough for our car payment this month. I called them thinking that if I called and let them know the situation that they would work with us. Ummm.. I was wrong. You don't qualify for a skip payment. Sorry. You will need to make the payment when it is due. Yea, okay. I do what I can.

Honestly, I will make it only if God intervenes. He might but that will be the only way.

My honey has his big test on the 21st. I am praying for God's will. It is difficult to not just pray for passing but I decided I will just pray for God's will, we want to do what The Father wants us to anyway, so the best prayer must be for His will. Please, those of you that read this, pray for His will in our life and in relation to this test.

I don't feel very Christmasy either. I guess it stems from the fact I can't go buy presents. I know Christmas is not about gifts, but I will admit I love buying gifts for my family and friends. I love being able to get them something they wanted but would have never thought to buy it for themselves. I enjoy that so very much. I was able to buy a couple of presents for our daughters before we ran out of cash so I am glad for that. Granted the youngest will have no clue, but the oldest will to some degree.

I am trying to remember that my whole family is celebrating Christmas late so we can do it together. We had intended to celebrate each family to its own on Christmas and then all of us together sometime in January, so I guess that is what hubby and I will do. Christmas will just fall in January. It does not matter when it happens as long as you remember why Christmas exists in the first place. I need to remind myself of that.

I do wish I did not let things get to me. I did some self care today to try to fight it off. It helped a little bit not a whole lot. I made sure to do some of my routines to assist in that as well, also helped some. I was not able to fight it completely off but I did a lot better than I used to so I guess that is also a positive. That I was able to look the mood in the eye and see if for what it was, and try to fight against it.

I admit I snapped at my honey more than once. However, the wonderful man seemed to understand. I am blessed with him for being so loving and understanding when I was being a pill.

Okay, it is past my bedtime and I am going to go climb in and call this day done.

Tuesday, December 14, 2010 she changed our life..

I have made a lot of changes lately in my daily life and schedule. Things were just not working very smoothly or well before. The house was chaotic and messy. It seemed like so much work with the kids...and the kids well I was getting frazzled easily with them...So I woke up one day and realized that something had to change...
So...  I signed back up with to help get my life under control. I wanted not only to make the house a home rather than a messy place we live but to also create a calm atmosphere in my mind and for the girls.
I have been doing this I think for about a month. I can report that things are vastly different in my home today than they were when I started this journey. Today we are sitting in a clean house, home cooked food in the fridge, a calm loving atmosphere. Simply ... A Happy Home...
I must give a shout out to Maria Cilley, aka The Flylady for the changes. I do not know her personally and will probably never have the privilege of meeting her , however I can tell you that she has changed my life and through me, my family. My girls will grow up in a different atmosphere than they might have otherwise because of her.
I can say I cook for my family and it is easy to do because I plan ahead.
I can say I know exactly where both shoes are at any given time because they have a home and because I " rescue" the rooms in my house, if they are not on my feet I know where to find them .
I can say I can wear the outfit I want when I want because my laundry is always done.
I can say how easy getting ready in the morning is because I have a night routine.
I can say how simple breakfast is because I have a morning routine.
I can say how easy it is to put my daughter to bed because she has a routine.
I can also say... This is the first year I could do Christmas cards because I was prepared in advance!
Thank you flylady ..  You have changed my life.

Monday, December 6, 2010

Menu Planning.. Learning a New Art

So, I decided I would start menu planning. This is our first week of it, today being the very first day. We had chicken in dumplings. It was pretty good, and easy!!! I have a week's worth of cooking to do, so we shall see how this goes.
I am excited about it, the savings alone make it worth it, however I have never been much of a cook so... I am hoping though, that I truly enjoy it. It would be such a wonderful gift for my family.

Tomorrow is Crock Pot pork chops!!!

Well I am off to rescue the house. and enjoy some quiet time!!!

Sunday, December 5, 2010

This Season...

The Christmas season is officially here. I love Christmas, pretty much everything about it. There are of course a few things I could do without, like the million people in pretty much every store you go into. I do enjoy the music, the reason Christmas exists ( the birth of my savior ), the feeling it puts in your heart, and the hearts of most everyone around you, how much nicer everyone seems to be at Christmas, buying gifts for those that I love, and of course the decorations.
I love that moment on Christmas Eve when everyone opens their gifts, and they ooohh and aaahhh because you got them THE gift, that something they wanted so badly for themselves but would have never gotten it. I am excited this year, because my oldest daughter is 2 and will be able to comprehend a little more this year.
I love driving around and looking at how everyone decorated their house. It so beautiful and wonderful. It feels magical to me. It seems to be have a piece of Jesus in them. The feeling you have when you get into the Christmas Spirit.
This Christmas will be a little different for us. We usually celebrate with my family and will not be able to do so this year. We will have a delayed get together in January, but it will be different since we are all having our family Christmases separate. We never do that, we always have it together. I will miss that and them very much. It feels so different to not be able to celebrate with them like usual. There have been very few Christmases ever celebrated without my sister's family. While I know we will celebrate with them in January, it will be different since we are also celebrating separately. I am choosing to see the positive though of: I get to see them and celebrate with them at some point.
Christmas seems to bring the very best of human nature out. I wish it was like this all year. People are much more tolerant of others quirks, and foibles. They are much more apt to help someone do well anything than they are at any other time of the year. People in general are much more likely to smile and wave than to grumble and gripe about being late or whatever their issue is.

It is a wonderful season and my favorite holiday. I don't like snow so of course I live where there is none, but I love looking at pictures of a white Christmas. They are beautiful.

God Bless everyone and have a wonderful Christmas if I don't post before then..

Merry Christmas.

Wednesday, November 17, 2010

Believing and Learning...a look at the introspective me...

My birthday is coming up and I thought I would address some of the things I have learned in my 37 years. I have to also admit that for some reason 37 seems to be bothering me some. It is so close to 40 and while I know 40 is still young, I remember a time when it was old. This is saying something given that I don't remember a lot. My husband is fond of telling me he was the one I married one the beach. I have learned a lot in those years though. I am a very different person I think that I was even 10 years ago, and my life is certainly in a different place that it was in 2000.

I know that you have to believe in something. Life is boring, sad and  hard to get through without believing in something. I choose to believe in God. He has gotten me through and still continues to get me through very tough times. I often wonder why we have to go through some of these rough and tumble times, but I am sure at the end of the day, He has a plan. I believe that if I let God control my life, I will go in the direct he would have me go and I will end up where I am supposed to be. To that end, I believe I am exactly where I am supposed to be at any given moment.

My husband asked me tonight why the journey has to be hard. I don't have an answer but I have some clue as to why. I think each journey you take will teach you or someone involved in that journey some lesson that they needed to learn at that precise moment. God never said life was easy, and it certainly cannot be said to be so. He provided us with some amazing things to get through the hard journey though.

Things like love. So much can be said about love and it can never be enough. The word itself does not begin to describe love. I find it interesting that the English language has only one word for love but most other languages have three or more words to describe different types of love. Each kind of love is different and unique but all the same it creates a depth of feeling that no other emotion can duplicate.

Things like compassion and empathy for others. How can you go through life without feeling that for someone or someone feeling it for you. How can you feel those emotions if you have never experienced hardship and struggle. The short answer is simply that you can't. You cannot know how to comfort someone struggling if you yourself have never know a day of pain.

Things like children. I love my children more than my life. They are simply my heart. They teach you about God's love for us. You learn through them each day. You know what it is like to wear your heart outside your body for the rest of your life. You hurt with them, you laugh with them, and you love them deeply without reservation. The feeling a parent holds for their child is simply indescribable.

The last thing I am going to mention is the relationship of a husband and a wife. It is more than just love and companionship. It is hard to put into words just what it brings to life. You learn so much each day from your spouse, you can be married one year or fifty and yet seem to learn something knew about your spouse constantly. I believe through the constant learning you learn much about yourself. As the relationship has an ebb and flow so do you. God gave us another person to lean on when we are at our weakest and to laugh with when we are happy, and give joyously when we need it the most.

Believing in something and learning through that belief is what makes life wonderful. It is what makes it special and unique. It is what makes it blessed.

Friday, November 12, 2010

My little one is 2...How did that happen...

L is two. How did she get to be that old. I can hardly believe it. I become a mommy on this day two years ago. It seems ages sometimes, and just yesterday at other times. I cried like a big ole baby the first time I held her in my arms. I could not believe that God entrusted this little angel to me. I still feel the same.

She has gotten so big. She understands so much and is talking so much more. I know I will look up and she will be 5, then 10 and in the blink of an eye she will be grown. So, even though so days are tough with a two year old, I try to appeciate each day and each moment as it comes.

Money at this moment is to tight for a party, but we are going to celebrate tomorrow with her grandparents on my husband's side. I hope she enjoys her day. I wish she could see her Lala, BooBoo, MayMay and Mimi.. not to mention her Nenna.

My baby girl is two... wow..

Thursday, November 11, 2010

Tough Week...

This whole week has been pretty rough for me. I feel like the weight of the world is sitting on my shoulders, I don't know why. I know that it is not, that what will happen will happen. I find myself feeling fearful at the lack of money. I am trying very hard to not feel that way, to just believe.

The kids have been tough this week as well. I feel very tired and frazzled. I am also trying to get sick. I feel like I just need a break, maybe even to sleep. An extra 4 hours of sleep would go a long way these days. Last night I could not get either kid to go bed within a timely manner, V especially was against sleep. Today I am pooped. I was pooped yesterday, but more pooped today.

The house is not in order and it is making me crazy. I am trying very hard to put it in order, however with two littles it is hard to get much of anything done it feels. I know I am getting some stuff done but it does not feel like enough.

I am also starting to miss having friends nearby, I am making friends but it is a slow process. I miss a friend coming over and just hanging out with you talking and playing with the kids. I miss just feeling part of something, right now I am just feeling alone and not the good kind of alone.

I am sure I am just feeling sorry for myself today, it will pass. I think this week has just been a little more rough that I am capable of dealing with.

For those that pray, please pray for our family.

Sunday, November 7, 2010

Changes and Hope

My life changes constantly, though there are those that would say it is the same each day. I am a stay at home mom, however I assure you this does not mean I do the same thing every day. Granted we have routines that I don't like to veer from as it makes my day more painful when I do. My day changes though based on many husbands daughters own mood..what event or chore we plan on attending/doing that day and various other things that come up.

So, when I have a bad day I know that does not mean tomorrow is bad too. It means tomorrow is a new day and hopefully better. There are days I want to run screaming from the building, but then there are days I feel completely blessed. My sister says everything is what you make it, I tend to believer her, though frankly I usually don't want it hear that when I am feeling negative. Haha. It is however, mostly true, your attitude is what makes a thing what it is. I know there are outside forces that can affect your life, but they can only adversely affect you if don't have the right attitude.

I am learning that changing your plan is needed often. Learning to accept change is needed and absolutely necessary in this med school life. I am not in school, but in many ways it feels like it. I worry about grades and tests and what the professors think. I don't have to study, or spend time at the hospital with doctor's that go our of your way to make you feel stupid, I do however feel for my husband for each day he has and how it turns out.

Just as often as worrying about school, or maybe even more often I realize that God is bigger than all of this. God knows his plan for us and that if we believe and trust in him we will end up in the right place . We are in the right place right now.We are exactly where he wants us at this precise moment and if we believe he will get us through it. Intact. 

Wednesday, November 3, 2010

Some Days....

There are some days that are just not good, that all kinds of things go wrong. Today was sort of one of those days, it was not all bad. However it had high frustration. I stayed up a bit last night to get some self care in, fingers and toes painted and then it started...

Just as I was getting ready to go to sleep, and I was so tired and ready for the comfy-ness of my bed. Just at that moment, V woke up. Awesome... Okay, she is hungry; I fed her. Nope. Not the full problem. Okay, maybe gas; lets get a burp out of her. Nope. Not the problem, she was congested. I did the little squeegy on her nose.
It boiled down to fussy-ness and waking every 20 minutes or so. Until 7ish, when she woke and would not go back to sleep and woke her sister up, who was not pleased about it. It was awesome. I was so pooped.

I got up, fed the kids.. Both of them. I was not hungry, I laid down on the couch with V and promptly fell asleep. I woke up in a panic, I feel asleep with an awake 2 year old. What is wrong with me. Amazing stories she did not do anything. God was looking after me.

Hubby arrived home, I laid back down on the couch with V, and yep did it again. Awesome. He had gone to bed. But again, she did not do anything. How did that happen. God was watching over us.

I got up, ate and just puttered around. I dressed the kids and myself.  My friend Melanie came over and helped out with the kids for a couple of hours, it was such a blessing because I was so very tired, and frazzled. I was able to clean the kitchen and take a shower. Oh it was wonderful and needed. Thank you dear Melanie..

I then had to go to the bank and move money around, lets just say it was not simple. I had to go to the grocery store too, again not so very simple. Little V decided that being in the carseat was not to be had, so I had to push the cart with one hand and hold her in the other. I had to make it back to the house so dinner could be cooked for hubby before work. I did it, but it was not fun.

L did not get a nap today and so had been very cranky for a couple of hours now, So.. being the mom, I put her to bed early. HA. Some days its good to be the mommy.

I have V in the moby, am going to watch Netflix for a bit and go to bed!!!

Tuesday, November 2, 2010

Self Care

It is definitely time for some self care again. It has been a while I think since I did any real self care. I have found myself getting flustered rather easily lately, granted there is a lot going on that could cause that.

Tonight after I get the kids to bed, I am going to try to take a bath, with candles and paint my fingers and toes. Let's see if we can make that happen. It would be nice if I could.

Hubby is on night float so it is just me and the kids. I am a bit nervous, apparently there have been some break-ins in the area. There was even one in my complex. Nice and Nervous over here. uuuggghhh

Well off to finish baths and night time routine.

Monday, November 1, 2010

A little less murky but still overwhelmed...

The reality of this life, is that it is hard. Harder than you can imagine in the beginning of the journey. It takes a special kind of person, that few are at the beginning of the trip. I have never thought I was that person, there are many days I hate this life. 

God though, has a plan for all things. Through the hardships is how you become who you are in him. It is how you become strong enough for the life he has planned for you. It is how you know you are going in the right direction. 

I have often told my husband I was not the right woman for him. He has always told me, that if I was different he would not be in love with me. He loves who I am, warts and all. I love him very much and this past week has taught me just how deep my love for him runs.

He has struggled with a very important decision. One that might change the course of our life. One that would not just impact my wonderful husband, but myself, our children, our families and everyone around us. It would change our friendships, our location even. It might. It was tough, but it was a decision he had to make on his own. He made it. He made his decision submitting to God, and in that end we feel he made the right decision. 

I feel so proud at this moment, that God chose me to be here for this journey with him. I am certain I will forget that statement which is why I choose to put it here, so that I might come back and read it. So that others may remind me. This life is not easy, it seems ever, but it is where I am supposed to be.

So things are not so murky anymore, they are overwhelming as usual. There is much to be done in short amount of time, and no money in which to make it through. I am certain though, that if I trust in God, he will clear the fog off the step. He has always done so and I know he will continue to do so. 

Saturday, October 30, 2010

Medical Specialty AptitudeTest (stolen from Blogger friend

 Rank     SpecialtyScore
1 radiology
2 thoracic surgery
3 pediatrics
4 nuclear med
5 anesthesiology
6 dermatology
7 colon & rectal surgery (really?) 
8 pathology
9 general surgery
10       occupational med
11       neurosurgery
12       infectious disease
13       radiation oncology
14       pulmonology
15       nephrology
16       gastroenterology
17       plastic surgery
20physical med & rehabilitation
21aerospace med
23preventive med
26med oncology
29allergy & immunology
32orthopaedic surgery
33emergency med
34general internal med
36family practice

In following what my blogger friend did, I am going to bold what DH is interested in, for posterity sake. =)